That moment when an elderly parishioner asks you how you feel about “that gay marriage”, 10 minutes after you meet.
And you think, “How do I figure out what THEY think first, so as not to open a can of worms? How do I answer this question truthfully without insulting or alienating the person in front of me? How do I appear gracious, but also intelligent enough to have my own opinions? How do I remain true to myself, without saying something that might instantly turn this person off of me? Because even if they disagree with me, everyone deserves some pastoral care, and that’s what I’m trying to provide but I can’t provide it if this person doesn’t think me credible.”
In the end I kind of failed at the ‘remaining true to thyself’ part, and said something like: “I haven’t really made up my mind yet…what do you think about gay marriage?”
It could have been worse, but I need to figure out how to do it better.
“A sign inside the front door of Holy Cross Primary School, in north Belfast, reads: If we’d been born where they were born and taught what they were taught, we would believe what they believe.”
I’m very happy that Obama now publicly supports Gay marriage. I’m not happy with the people who now act like anyone still against gay marriage is an ignorant bigot. People believe things for a reason. It may not be the right reason, a logical reason, or even an acceptable reason, but don’t bully the bully just because you have the upper hand. All that does is make you a bully. And nothing will have changed.